We say we want to be in love. What is it exactly? I think of it as that giddy, effervescent emotion- where you can’t concentrate; the weather seems perfect no matter how bitter; the music is all sing-alongs on the radio; you can’t wait for the phone to ring. When you look in the mirror, you say, “Damn, I’m smokin’ today!” You can listen to a bad review from your boss and it just rolls off. Life is all good. Nothing can ruin your mood.
We love the feeling of being in love, because we feel good about ourselves. Someone is attracted to us. Someone expresses affection and desire towards us. Someone is validating our existence. Everything we say is novel and unique. It stands our world on end. The feelings are intoxicating.
It is just a matter of time until this euphoria lessens. We’ve heard the stories; we’ve learned the other person’s habits; we go back to work and our routines. It does not mean we love the person less, it just means the buzz fades.
Since this is just a head game and it is all in our minds, I thought I’d play a game with it. If we have someone we love, that’s great. If we don’t, we can still play. Imagine the emotions you feel when you are in love. Just close your eyes and remember the feelings. Think back to the adrenaline rush; recall the anticipation. This is not about the person. This is about your own emotions. You choose your emotions and reactions all the time. Got it? Now walk outside with those in love vibes rushing through you. Don’t worry, no one will see them. Watch what happens. The sky is bluer. The birds sing sweeter. You feel lucky. You begin to exude happiness. If you see someone on the sidewalk, you smile. They smile back. The whole world seems brighter.
We can have this in love feeling any time. We can have it whenever we choose. Let it wash over you. Hold it for as long as you can. With practice, you can hang on to it all day. Go to sleep with it; eat with it. It is glorious and it never lessens because it is not dependent on what someone else says or does.
You are creating a vortex. Anyone that meets you now will be attracted. You are loving, enthusiastic and optimistic. You are fun and exciting; all because you started feeling in love. Try it! What do you have to lose?
1 comment:
Very Powerful. "The Spirit of Allowing". Allow yourself to love. Allow yourself to relax. We choose our emotions. Nobody "Makes" us anything; we are always in control of ourselves even when we're not. I could not agree more! The issue lies with those of us who don't feel the Love. Love is hard to manufacture. I've often said, "Fake it until you make it". Problem is, faking it is draining. It raises the question... is the problem I have due to a lifetime of faulty programming and beliefs that have blocked my ability to love, or am I simply devoid of the ability to love in sufficient quantity to be truely happy?
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